Manage Expectations

Stop and consider what you expect your life as a married couple will entail. What will it look like? What is important to you about this vision and why?


"Feeling" versus "having" requires that feelings come first. Throw away what you will not manifest.





Ask the tough questions then check in to see if they are changing.


What do you agree on? There are some major areas - like children, religion, values, money- within which way too many arguments can stem. Will you have separate funds? How will you split your expenses? What is fair in your minds?





Then there are the seemingly minimal questions that are just as important to your happiness that you don't likely ask. What does a clean house look like to you? Does it include piling your shoes neatly under the table? Because it certainly does not for me! Will toilet paper roll over or under? How do you feel about dust?






Talk without being all judgmental... watch your tone. Discuss what is important to you and why. See if middlegrounds exist for the two of you. They may not.





Bottom line, if you have a hang up, it is on you to manage it. Don’t expect your partner to get on board with what is important to you in these minor situations. Don’t resent that you can’t change the individual you love.